Why Some Relationships Prosper And Some Fail?

• Posted on December 16, 2011 at 6:48 pm

There are a number of elements that play a role in making a lasting and mutually satisfying relationship. People say that its all about maintaining a healthy balance of chemistry and compatibility. While this contention is true, some have the wrong notion that compatibility simply means having the same likes and dislikes. On the contrary, it means being complementary and learning how to compromise, combining differing qualities together to allow for a blissful coexistence. Compromise should not be misconstrued as having to submit or surrender to the wishes of the other all the time; instead it is meeting halfway and not forgetting to respect each partner’s individuality. Mutual respect for each other entails understanding who the other is and at the same time not challenging the other persons boundaries.

To establish and keep a stable relationship, one should study the art of encouragement too. Encouragement can be given in a variety of ways, from support and loyalty to showing interest and having an optimistic demeanor. Encouraging also means focusing more on the persons good characteristics than the bad. Another factor to a great relationship is the willingness to share. It can involve physical sharing of oneself to satisfy each others physical, emotional, and intellectual needs or sharing quality time with each other, as well as working together so that neither is overloaded with responsibilities.
What causes relationships to break down?

Poor communication is an oft-mentioned reason as to why couples part ways. Many individuals have unreasonable expectations that their mates should be sensitive enough to know what they are thinking about, their desires and the real cause of certain problems without needing to tell the other directly. Because of this, small misunderstandings end up being blown out of proportions, often to the extent of the relationship being irreparable.

Loss of trust is also another reason why people leave a relationship. It’s only natural to feel slightly jealous if someone is hitting on your partner; however that could be quickly taken care of by reassuring your partner. The problem is if the jealousy becomes too extreme, that is bordering on paranoia. Being jealous is an incredibly potent feeling, and when combined with anger it can truly leave your relationship in smithereens.

Secrecy can also be damaging to a relationship because that awareness of being dishonest creates a distance between you and your partner. This is not to say however that you need to divulge every single detail of what you feel or did. Exercise prudence when doing so – You don’t need to tell your girlfriend that the dentist who attended to him was hot.

How to get your ex girlfriend back?

If you think that the partner you parted ways with a few months back is really the person you’d want to spend the rest of your life with, here are some ideas on how to get your ex girlfriend back.

For starters, provide her ample time and space to think. If you had a great relationship, she will miss you, and will be more willing to give it a second try. In the meantime, try to figure out why one or both of you left the relationship. Sometimes, the urge to get back with someone can be so strong that we forget that we left the relationship because one was verbally abusive, or too dominating, or unreasonably jealous. If its not any of those reasons, then the next step you should take is to talk with her. Remember though that when you do get the chance to talk to her, avoid sounding spiteful or defensive, and allow her to speak uninterrupted and being attentive as she shares her reasons for the breakup. Come to the date calm and collected, and look your best as if nothing went wrong. Your ex-girlfriend would be leery in giving you a second chance if you appear too clingy or overly eager. If she does consent to going back together, avoid doing the same mistakes over again and be showier of your emotions.

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